tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.comments2021-05-01T15:46:53.471-07:00Because you cheatedAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00213377102964559467noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-69043029733848309382014-10-23T10:25:11.709-07:002014-10-23T10:25:11.709-07:00Here is a song another reader sent me as their ant...Here is a song another reader sent me as their anthem for recovering from a cheating ex - Tom Petty, Learning to Fly: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s5BJXwNeKsQAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00213377102964559467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-83417351863359180062014-10-23T07:31:52.284-07:002014-10-23T07:31:52.284-07:00Enjoyed!Enjoyed!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02217954954232361237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-15157040386869695092014-08-30T13:25:15.331-07:002014-08-30T13:25:15.331-07:00Another article on non-monogamy:
http://www.psych...Another article on non-monogamy:<br /><br />http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201408/inside-look-open-marriagesAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00213377102964559467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-45638796618858312682014-08-11T12:43:54.122-07:002014-08-11T12:43:54.122-07:00I just found this 4 minute clip of Dr. Gottman tal...I just found this 4 minute clip of Dr. Gottman talking about the worst of the four horsemen, contempt<br /><br />http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/contempt-the-best-predictor-of-divorce-fiff/Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00213377102964559467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-8689917757262088572014-06-23T15:54:44.045-07:002014-06-23T15:54:44.045-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-61891735633350426642014-03-24T00:07:40.528-07:002014-03-24T00:07:40.528-07:00Thanks Johanna, so glad you are still coming back ...Thanks Johanna, so glad you are still coming back for more. Love, RebeccaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00213377102964559467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-83056829122545874252014-03-23T18:10:53.794-07:002014-03-23T18:10:53.794-07:00Enjoyable reading Rebecca, as always!Enjoyable reading Rebecca, as always!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02217954954232361237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-3843676457571845082014-03-17T14:17:23.525-07:002014-03-17T14:17:23.525-07:00Hi Cara, thank you so much for not only taking the...Hi Cara, thank you so much for not only taking the time to read my blog, but also to comment and challenge me on my perspective! Grief is a messy and unpredictable process. Out of nowhere yesterday I had quite the crying session; first in months I think. <br /><br />Ironically, this morning on FB I ran across this quote from author Gary Chapman: "For marital healing after unfaithfulness, forgiveness is essential. It involves two key elements: confession and asking for forgiveness on the part of the erring spouse, and genuine forgiveness on the part of the offended spouse."<br /><br />Obviously in my case, we aren't looking at healing the marriage. And I cannot force an apology out of my ex, nor would I want to. If and when that occurs, it needs to be heartfelt and on his time and his terms. <br /><br />You raise a good question though, would it be a useful experience? I don't know. I know I do my best to accept the situation for what it is, and lovingly forgive him the best I can. <br /><br />Take care, and keep in touch. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00213377102964559467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-38073182839885509082014-03-16T02:26:17.085-07:002014-03-16T02:26:17.085-07:00Hi, I'm so sorry you're going through this...Hi, I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's a horrible process, and you're right, that model of the grieving process isn't good enough to understand it. Mind you, it's not good enough for grief either. Real life is messy, huh? You've raised a question in my mind. Does he need to be involved in your forgiveness? I'm not sure that trying to get him to say sorry can be a useful experience for you? Wishing you all the best with this, and thanks for sharing.Cara L McKeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12253833172652477824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-75937714400920332312014-03-03T00:23:32.198-08:002014-03-03T00:23:32.198-08:00Here is another blog I have found on polyamory loc...Here is another blog I have found on polyamory located within the website psychology today:<br /><br />http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-polyamorists-next-doorAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00213377102964559467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-29378943241194895722014-02-07T19:28:55.320-08:002014-02-07T19:28:55.320-08:00will do.. I think you might be very surprised to ...will do.. I think you might be very surprised to hear what I have to say!<br />looking forward to talking with you again..Jim.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-11525424807635626882014-02-07T01:07:29.356-08:002014-02-07T01:07:29.356-08:00Hi Jim, you can send me an email at aquavixen69@gm...Hi Jim, you can send me an email at aquavixen69@gmail.com. Thanks for taking the time to read and comment. Looking forward to hearing your thoughts. RebeccaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00213377102964559467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-7717890975026988732014-02-05T23:40:44.104-08:002014-02-05T23:40:44.104-08:00Interesting reading....where can I contact you at?...Interesting reading....where can I contact you at?? Jim.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-61293903521265422542013-12-18T01:31:14.461-08:002013-12-18T01:31:14.461-08:00I need to publish a clarification or correction re...I need to publish a clarification or correction regarding what I heard my girlfriend say about hoping people will change to suit you. I used the example of colouring your hair red. I misunderstood my friend, or took a trifle example. Her clarification to me is that if you love someone, you would want to make them happy. If they tell you that something is important to them, you, because you love them, would want to make an earnest effort to meet their needs. With every choice there is compromise and consequence. One must decide if the price is too high or if the request compromises your integrity. If it doesn't, it is always worth putting a smile on a loved one's face. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00213377102964559467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-29379610372365290082013-12-09T23:32:22.562-08:002013-12-09T23:32:22.562-08:00Sharon, thank you so much for reading and taking t...Sharon, thank you so much for reading and taking the time to comment. I love feedback and am eternally grateful to hear that my thoughts got your brain engaged! I really appreciate your guidance on when hope will happen even if you can't give me the roadmap. And I am guessing you are correct; I need to believe in magic again, and to do that, I need to get over the demons in my head. I like your idea that hope is peaceful. I am obsessed with the thought of peace these days. Love you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00213377102964559467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-18764004106784006562013-12-09T11:17:29.126-08:002013-12-09T11:17:29.126-08:00Hope is very different for many people. I became ...Hope is very different for many people. I became obsessed with what gives people hope in various situations. It hit me one day when I was speaking to a 'lifer" at work, serving 2 life sentences with no hope of ever getting back into society. I dared to ask her what is it that makes you wake up day after day. What is it that makes someone in a third world country starving for an ounce of things we take for granted hopeful? What is that thing that makes someone suffering from deep grief hopeful? I was deep in despair of heartache and living a life in which I was learned slowly was confined by self imposed chains. I was searching for what made others hopeful so that I too could find hope.<br /><br />What I can say is hope is achieved at the end of your journey to finding yourself again. It happens after you reach forgiveness and it is peaceful. There is no magical formula unfortunately. But my dear you had me thinking a lot after this post and that's a good thing. Hope is believing in magic independent of any one person.<br /><br />Love you<br />xoxoxox<br />Sharon Fernandeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13098327858732943936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-84670378824359162972013-11-19T14:46:06.171-08:002013-11-19T14:46:06.171-08:00Thank you so much for the feedback Anonymous. I am...Thank you so much for the feedback Anonymous. I am so grateful to know my words and heart aren't just floating around in cyberspace somewhere. My transformation feels slow and awkward, but as incremental as it is, at least it is happening. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00213377102964559467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-53196615998900510462013-11-19T14:44:20.910-08:002013-11-19T14:44:20.910-08:00Our Jaimee is a very wise old soul and we are luck...Our Jaimee is a very wise old soul and we are lucky to have her in our lives. I absolutely credit her with my healingAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00213377102964559467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-20674314390649142132013-11-18T23:16:20.724-08:002013-11-18T23:16:20.724-08:00Beautifully developed blog! Your transformation is...Beautifully developed blog! Your transformation is measurable and priceless!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-39678079125002570692013-11-18T21:38:09.908-08:002013-11-18T21:38:09.908-08:00As my Jaimee would say: This is the new normal!As my Jaimee would say: This is the new normal!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02217954954232361237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-81279160706382827242013-11-02T23:05:48.524-07:002013-11-02T23:05:48.524-07:00Thanks for that feedback Lu, I couldn't agree ...Thanks for that feedback Lu, I couldn't agree more with your assessment. I think if I ever try internet dating really looking for a relationship, I will pay for the service in the hopes of weeding out the non-serious booty call types. Thanks for the comment! You are my first :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00213377102964559467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-309477020823205812.post-46622192606109704622013-11-02T13:35:13.040-07:002013-11-02T13:35:13.040-07:00Plenty Of Fish should be renamed Plenty Of Sharks ...Plenty Of Fish should be renamed Plenty Of Sharks and a newcomer is considered a guppy.... be strong girlfriend. My own experience taught me that there are plenty of fish but the Fisher has to be patient for the right fish to bite and to discard the duds.Lunoreply@blogger.com